Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Chemistry and LDS Online Dating

Chemistry and LDS Online Dating

The Summary about LDS Online Dating By Anne Clarke
LDS online dating can be tricky. How do you know if there will be chemistry when you actually meet in person if you feel chemistry already online? I have had numerous experiences dating online from LDS dating websites (because I am LDS) with this very question. It’s scary to meet someone for the first time and you don’t want to blow it because you think that there could be definite potential when you mesh so well through emails and talking on the phone. But the attraction, a lot of times, doesn’t follow all the way through to when you actually meet a person face to face for the first time.

First off, make sure you share similar beliefs and values. Being LDS, dating those who share your LDS faith can be a major bonus when trying to connect. Not only will you be able to discuss things with the same intent, but it will make the chemistry easier to maintain without fights over religion. I’ve dated non-members and it seems the subject always rears its ugly head into the conversation, which eventually snuffs out the chemistry that was once there.
It’s hard to get a good feel for people over the internet. Being the internet, you can come across the inevitable whack-job, even on LDS dating websites, they always seem to sneak their way in through the cracks. But aside from the occasional whack-job, people tend to make themselves look better on paper, so to speak. Girls tend to always think ahead when it comes to relationships. 

The handsome husband, the cute house and white picket fence, forty billion of your own kids running down the isle during Sacrament meeting… the Mormon dream. I hate to admit it, but I am notorious for this, day dreaming about some guy I totally mesh with over the Internet. In all honesty, it is fun to think about your future life together, but don’t put too much stock into it. Also, if you are clicking with someone you’ve never met in person and you are already making engagement and wedding plans with them before you’ve even met, it’s not a good idea, don’t even go there. The disappointment, if you two don’t have chemistry in person, could be very hurtful. My heartfelt advice, just don’t do it.

Ok, so what if you have put a lot of time and effort getting to know someone and you finally meet and there is nothing, nada, zilch, not an ounce of chemistry between you two, but you don’t want to say anything because you’ve wasted so much time already with this person? Well, it’s not a great idea to pretend; actually it’s a bad, bad, idea. Don’t pretend to like someone, it not only builds resentment but can hurt more feelings in the long run if you don’t tell them straight out that the chemistry just isn’t there. If you keep this in mind, and there is not chemistry, it will be a disappointment, but will also be much easier to accept and move on. But if you are lucky enough to have amazing chemistry with someone when you finally meet, then go for it.
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Saturday, April 7, 2012

Online Dating First Email

Online Dating First Email

Online Dating – First Email, How to Get a Response?
Summary about Email Dating By Jeff Pesarcyk
You have gone through the process of browsing online personals and selecting somebody who piques your interest. Now comes the part when you must initiate contact with the person and see how a relationship might develop. The best-laid plans for contact, however, can quickly come unraveled if the opening salvo is not up to par. The first email that you send to somebody can say a lot about your intentions, your personality, and your intelligence, and it can determine whether or not you receive a response and thus have a chance for something more with them.

How, then, can you increase your odds of receiving a response from the first email that you send? There are several things that you can do to tilt the board in your direction. First and foremost, you should have an understanding of what such “probing” emails usually entail. The people that instigate contact often do not take the time to write out a thoughtful, well-constructed email; rather, their attempts come across as a thinly-veiled and hasty proposition. Thus, anything that you can do to differentiate your email from a slew of others is bound to be beneficial. Take the time to read over what you’ve written before submitting it. Few things say more about the person writing an email than inexplicable, easy-to-catch misspellings and grammatical errors.

If you want somebody to take your email seriously, the first step is to take it seriously yourself.
Beyond the surface aspects of the email, its content is what will ultimately determine whether or not you receive a response. Keeping in mind the drivel that the person probably receives more often than not, a thoughtful and sincere email will probably do wonders in terms of vaulting your effort to the front of the pack. As in life, people online are responsive to those who listen and take the time and effort to understand their interests. If they have an online personal, then, make sure you look it over before writing your email. This can serve two purposes. First, an email that at least makes reference to some of their interests and desires will probably resonate more in the recipient’s mind. Second, a more scrutinizing look at a person’s interests may dictate whether or not you even send said email; the last thing that you want is to send a letter based solely on physical attraction and discover only afterward that the person is a polar opposite from yourself.

The recipient is essentially being contacted by a stranger, so anything that you can do to personalize your letter will help it out immensely in terms of effectiveness. You’ll probably want to refrain from sending a picture immediately (if it is not posted on your personal, obviously) as it can seem a bit presumptuous, but let it be known that you are not adverse to sending one over if the recipient expresses interest.
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Monday, April 2, 2012

Online Dating

Online Dating

Online Dating Gateway to Dating

If you are single, you most likely are preoccupied with dating on a regular basis. It does not matter the gender, finding a date for the weekend is as old as Adam and Eve. Men usually do the looking and asking while the ladies commonly send signals to let men know they are available. Times have changed, so it isn't uncommon if a lady does the asking but if you ask most ladies they still desire to be asked first.

Online dating hasn't been around as long as Adam and Eve, but it can be a gateway to a successful dating life no matter if you are looking for a date online or offline. Whichever case, online dating presents you with a venue to discover how to ask for a date without feeling the hurt of rejection that is typically felt when you ask a person face to face. Normally, if you are rejected by someone at an online dating site, the rejection seems less personal. It may sound clinical, but online dating is a great place to polish your dating skillsets.

I doubt if any one, male or female, enjoys rejection but from a male's viewpoint, I can testify that rejection can be quite damaging to your confidence. It isn't easy to work up the braveness to ask a lady if she should would enjoy to accompany you to dinner and getting a decisive no or an obvious excuse to try to spare your feelings. If you get numerous rejections, your are certain to ask yourself the single person's mantra "what's wrong with me."

Confidence can be infectious. If you lose it, it will trouble you from one rejection to the next. If you have it, it exudes in every feat you take and success seems to be never ending. Even though you may be dying to be with the opposite sex for a weekend date, if you have no confidence, it is tough to portray the self-assurance wanted to get him or her to say "yes" to your invite. Online dating may be the key to gaining back the confidence you desire to be a player in the dating world.

With online dating, dating rituals are less extreme. Members at online dating sites appear to be laid back and are less concern about "what you look like" and more concerned about "who you are." When you encounter someone face to face asking for a date, within seconds the individual being asked has to make an evaluation of who you are, if they would feel secure being with you in an intimate place, etc. With online dating it is two people casually talking through a keyboard and the risk or apprehension of intimacy is not as prevalent. Your confidence with the opposite sex usually is regained if lost and your new found confidence can carry on in the face to face dating world when asking a person for a date. You still may be rejected, but knowing that you have the sanctuary of your online dating world, your whole personality and casual attitude to asking someone face to face for a date seems to be reflected in your approach and rejected is less likely. Of course, many who discovered their confidence at an online dating site, may also realize the love of their life. Either way, online dating is a place to find yourself if you lost the confidence to jump into the world of dating.
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